- Are you having difficulties in your relationship?
- On the verge of splitting up?
- Split up and want to get back together?
- Relationship breakdown but need to make sense of things?
- Relationship with your parents or children getting the better of you?
- Relationship difficulties with co-workers
- Are you feeling bullied or do you work with controlling people?
People often come because basic needs aren’t being met, or it suddenly dawns on you that you’ve been repeating a particular relationship pattern for years. People can struggle with the relationship they experienced with their parents and find it impacts romantic relationships.
The trigger can be anything from a simple family event, or a significant event such as bereavement of a close family member, an affair or total breakdown of the relationship where the other person has walked out, maybe leaving you for someone else.
Perhaps you’re experiencing dissatisfaction, lies, cover up. Or maybe you want *him* to change, or if only *she* would understand you, then all will be well.
The very fact that you’re reading this illustrates YOUR desire for positive change. Often in relationships we will project how we feel onto the other person, expecting them to understand exactly where we are with them, but the fact is that they are not us and they cannot read our minds.
It’s possible to get completely bogged down and then confused as to why you don’t feel happy, which is why a fresh perspective outside of your relationship has incredible value. Someone who is on your “relationship’s side” yet maintains non-judgemental support for both of you.
Please note you can come either on your own or the two of you – even one of you attempting to breakthrough the stalemate you’re experiencing in your marriage can have a hugely positive impact! Download this worksheet to see if you are enacting any of these “four horsemen” (coined by John Gottman).
Perhaps there has been a significant loss of intimacy, gathering momentum over the years. Sexual problems and differencies in intimacy needs play a part in seeking therapy.
It can sometimes be hard to reach out for help in a sensitive and private area of your life, but the downside to this is feeling isolated and not knowing where to turn. Many men in particular may feel they don’t need help and would prefer to sort it out themselves. Even if just one person in the relationship sources impartial help, this can have a ripple effect and benefit for both parties.
Book a relationship intervention session or a no-obligation telephone chat with me and see how we can be a good fit to work together.